Are We Becoming Too Self Absorbed?


A young woman is beaten unconscious outside a nightclub in downtown Santa Ana. She dies two days later from her injuries.

A senior citizen in Orange falls in the crosswalk while on her way to a doctor’s appointment. Her leg buckles under her. She struggles to get up and finally manages to get on her feet and continue to her destination which was on the other side of the street.

The woman attacked outside the nightclub was there hoping to have a fun night out, when an argument ensued. Who knows what it was about. Does it really matter? In an instant the woman was on the ground being kicked and hit by five others. They were not the only ones there. There is cell phone video showing a crowd of bystanders watching the fight.

The woman in Santa Ana was beaten to death and not one person stepped forward to stop it. Not one. There was at least one person videoing the attack. The footage was used for the local news stations. But not one person who was there had the courage and compassion to step forward.

The senior citizen was not alone in the crosswalk. There were several others crossing the street, not to mention, cars on both sides waiting for the light to turn green. Two of the pedestrians wore blue scrubs — clearly employees of the medical center that the senior was on her way to.

The senior ended up with only scrapes and bruises. She was lucky. Nothing broken.  Not one person who was crossing the street along with her, tried to help her get up and safely across.  No one got out of their car. They knew what happened. They saw her fall. They looked at her as they walked by. She thought to herself — maybe they were late for work and just didn’t have time to see if she was ok.

Last year a woman made the front cover of the New York Post. It’s a picture of her taking a selfie in front of a man attempting to jump off the Brooklyn Bridge. In Michigan, customers at a convenience store stepped over a man in the doorway who had been shot.

Are we now choosing to record the drama on video so we can send it to our friends on social media as fast as we can, instead of helping another human being in need? Are we in such a hurry to get somewhere that we are willing to leave someone laying in the street?  These true stories sound like something out of an Ayn Rand novel. Or is it becoming real life? Have we lost our compassion?  I don’t get it. That was someone’s daughter who died from a beating. That was someone’s grandma who fell in the street. Someday it could be you who needs help from a stranger. Life is not a reality show. It’s real life and sometimes we need to help each other, even if its inconvenient or scary.

I hope these stories do not become the norm because if it is — we are doomed.



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